Yorgos Lanthimos | 2hr 44min

Whatever affection the title Kinds of Kindness promises to explore in its three surreal fables can only be considered ‘kindness’ on its most shallow, depraved level. Given how scarce a resource it is in Yorgos Lanthimos’ bleakly absurdist world of abusers and manipulators, perhaps the provisional security they offer is the best that any individual lost in the senseless void of existence can hope for. After all, when order lapses into anarchy, what is there to cling to but the unyielding directives of one’s employer? Where can love be found outside of one’s spouse, and what is purpose without a divine imperative guiding one’s life?
Gone is the whimsy of Lanthimos’ most recent films The Favourite and Poor Things, and replacing it is a familiar deadpan bleakness that harkens back to the early Lanthimos of Dogtooth and The Lobster. In the absence of his intricate period sets and fisheye lenses, Kinds of Kindness marks a disappointing step down visually, though this is not to say his world-building is any less bizarre. The rules that these characters live by are completely alien, forcing each to submit their agency to powers that we struggle to wrap our minds around, yet which they must never question for fear of greater ramifications.

The first chapter in Lanthimos’ anthology may be the clearest rendering of this social critique, observing a toxic relationship that holds corporate businessman Robert under the thumb of his boss, Raymond. Every aspect of his life is minutely controlled, from the books he must read right down to his weight-gaining diet. In return, he is given a large house, a wife, and a collection of valuable sports memorabilia – all handpicked by Raymond of course. Meanwhile, Robert’s comically petty acts of self-harm manifest as small rebellions, giving him a chance to whine for attention and take ownership of something beyond his employer’s grasp. When Raymond demands he commit vehicular homicide by recreating one of his staged car accidents though, Robert expresses doubt for the first time and risks losing everything.


He shouldn’t feel guilty over this, Raymond assures him, as the intended target has agreed to this proposition. Going by the embroidered monogram on the victim’s shirt, his name is R.M.F – the same initials which appear in the title of all three chapters. He is a passive enigma of a character, barely taking up a few minutes of screentime in each tale, and yet his role is always pivotal. The foreshadowing is apparent here in the first chapter ‘The Death of R.M.F.’, though later when Lanthimos plays out the second and third chapters ‘R.M.F. is Flying’ and ‘R.M.F. Eats a Sandwich’, the relevance grows increasingly oblique.
Those trying to penetrate the deeper symbolism behind R.M.F. will either conjure up some fantastic theory or be left sorely disappointed. Because he is fatefully tied to Lanthimos’ eccentric main characters and even takes precedence over them in chapter titles, we might expect him to represent some grand, metaphysical concept. Ultimately though, he is little more than a mundane peculiarity in this outlandish world – and quite ironically, it is exactly that which makes him stand out, further defining his environment as one of incongruous chaos.
At least when he appears in the second chapter ‘R.M.F. is Flying,’ he takes somewhat of a heroic role, rescuing marine biologist Liz from a desert island after she and her colleagues are shipwrecked. Unfortunately, her husband Daniel is not so ready to welcome her home. This new Liz is different, having apparently been replaced by a doppelganger who smokes, no longer fits her old shoes, and suddenly has a very active libido. Bit by bit, Lanthimos shifts the perspective of this story until Daniel’s role as a delusionally unreliable narrator comes into focus, and we begin to consider whether he is simply unable to comprehend his wife’s sudden psychological trauma.

Fulfilling her husband’s requests of self-mutilation appears to be the only way that Liz can prove her authentic love, and thus this chapter moves into some of the most viscerally disturbing scenes of the film, revealing its grotesque metaphor of toxic dependence. She has felt the horror of true isolation, and so this abuse seems a small price to pay for the security of marriage, even if it erodes the physical substance of her being.
In one key monologue elucidating a dream she had on the island, we can at least find a partial justification for this in her mind, imagining a world where dogs and humans have swapped places while the rest of society remains unaffected. It is not the first time Lanthimos has likened people to animals, contemplating the narrow divide between civil order and savage chaos, though here the metaphor explicitly pays off in a short epilogue revealing this off-kilter alternate world – dogs relaxing with friends, driving over human roadkill, and hanging themselves to death.

There is evidently a prophetic power to dreams throughout Kinds of Kindness, especially given how closely they are bound to characters’ memories, with prescient visions and flashbacks being consistently depicted in black-and-white. These interludes may exist purely inside their minds, and yet they frequently manifest in their lives later on like eerie echoes, sometimes even right down to the identical repetition of shots as we observe in Robert’s dreamed and actual confrontations with his boss in the first chapter. As such, the use of ‘Sweet Dream’s by the Eurythmics makes for a fitting theme song, lyrically contemplating the toxic behaviours of Lanthimos’ characters.
“Some of them want to use you,
Some of them want to be used by you,
Some of theme want to abuse you,
Some of them want to be abused.”
Indeed, “everybody is looking for something” in Kinds of Kindness, and bit by bit we begin to wonder whether their cryptic dreams are the key to finding it. Specifically in the third chapter, devoted cultist Emily is haunted by a nightmare of her hair being caught in a pool drain, until another woman sets her free – a visual metaphor which later manifests in her mission to find a foretold Messiah figure. Believing that bodily fluids hold the essence of human corruption, she and her brainwashed peers fall naively under the sway of their leader Omi, whose twisted, manipulative love holds the ultimate judgement over whether or not they have been “contaminated.” Once we witness the abuse Emily suffered back in her old home life though, we at least come to understand her desperate need to find belonging at whatever humiliating expense, even if it means a complete dedication of one’s soul and body to an unhinged belief system.


As we should expect by now, the divine is not something to be exalted in Lanthimos’ self-serving society, but to be drugged, kidnapped, and traded for the arbitrary approval of others. Its power is transcendent, yet it is ironically degraded by those who hold it up as an icon of spiritual glory, committing sordid acts in its name. Whatever hope or salvation may have been found in religion is lost the moment it is fashioned into a tool for simple, worldly desires.
Emma Stone’s performance as Emily in this final chapter may be the most memorable of the film, leaving a distinct mark in her copper-coloured suit, auburn hair, and flashy purple sportscar. As a totality though, it is the revolving cast through each fable which makes even more impactful formal statement, additionally featuring Jesse Plemons, Willem Dafoe, Margaret Qualley, and Hong Chau in multiple roles. Through the connection of R.M.F., we understand that they all exist within the same world, though perhaps one which is more akin to a Kafkaesque purgatory trapping souls in various forms of psychological torture than a logical, organised civilisation.

Further lifting Kinds of Kindness beyond the realm of reality is Jerskin Fendrix’s minimalist music score, setting shrill, discordant piano melodies against deep, pounding chords, while acapella male choruses sing ominous Greek hymns and sustained warnings of “No…”. These might as well be vocalisations of our own internal thoughts, watching these poor souls degrade themselves to earn the conditional love of employers, spouses, and religious leaders, yet only ever finding cold, empty embraces at best. For Lanthimos at least, the period to grieve this total loss of self-worth has long passed. By the time each tale in Kinds of Kindness has run its course, we inevitably realise that the only reasonable response to our own inhumanity is pitying, sardonic laughter.
Kinds of Kindness is currently playing in cinemas.
